What are you tolerating? The thing is, what you are tolerating can impact your business success.
Learn how to zap your tolerations!
- How to shift from DIY to DIT.
- Are you a hero if you do it alone? Or if you do it together?
- My evangelism for coaching.
To find out more about Norman Bell and view the full episode, go to https://hellyeslife.com/2021/03/30/108-how-to-be-30-more-courageous-with-david-wood/
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Norman Bell: [00:00:00] Can you just speak to that theme of tolerations?
David Wood: [00:00:02] Yeah, for sure. I first heard about this through Thomas Leonard, who is known as the father of modern coaching. And he’s like, you know, zap your tolerations was his thing. And I hadn’t thought of it until then, but there are so many things that we just get used to.
So one thing that I’ve been taught, I’m just scanning my life to see, like, what are some things I’m tolerating, neck and shoulder discomfort. I’m often tight there. And I do quite a bit of yoga to deal with it. And every now and then I’ll try some new therapy or pillow or something that, that might do it.
But that’s one thing that it’s a toleration and it’s easy to just get used to. Yeah. Fatigue is something that I’ve been tolerating for a long time, anxiety, depression. And then I’ll go through phases where I’m like, all right, let’s stop tolerating. You know I’m going to try Iowasca. This plant jungle medicine.
I’m going to try kambo. There’s frog sweat that they put on burns into your skin. And, you know, I always used to think people are crazy for doing that, but after you’ve tolerated something for long enough, you start getting more creative. Yep. And then in business, I’ve been tolerating for three months, not having a social media manager.
So my contents all stacking up with nowhere to go. I’ve been tolerating for five years, doing the bookkeeping and taxes on my own quite complex, and I know them and I’m a nerd and I can do them. I think it’s these things drain our energy. And so it’s really useful. Here’s another exercise. Grab another sheet of paper and list all of the things that you’re tolerating in your life.
It could be lack of sleep. It could be a relationship that’s kind of draining, could be an employee who’s late to meetings. It could be someone throwing trash down where you can see it or a cigarette butt on the ground. I that’s been a big pet peeve for me. It’s great to just become aware of them, all the different things that you’re tolerating.
And then I usually find like for me to really go on, move through those and make a bunch of change often requires coaching requires some kind of outside input because the coach can give me the impetus and the mindset to go and tackle all of these things. But you might be a self-starter enough that you can just write the list.
Pause this recording right now. Make your lists and then you might go and tackle three of them every week. I’m just going to knock these out until I’ve got no more tolerations in my life. Can free up a lot of energy and make life better.
Norman Bell: [00:02:41] Yeah. Yeah, definitely. Yeah. You know, if you can do it yourself, great. One thing I have found over the past, several years is there’s another guest that came on the show a while back Jeffrey Davis and he said you know, I tend to go from DIY to DIT from do it yourself to do it together. You know, and that’s something that I have learned as well.
Like I’m happy to say I have more of a tendency. I’ll only start going down the rabbit hole of internet research on a particular topic for about a half hour before I go wait, maybe I could get some help with this and and look up to see if there’s a coach in a particular area or, you know, somebody I could talk to that to, to get their help and expertise.
David Wood: [00:03:22] I liked that a lot. Do it yourself to do it together. Yeah. There’s a mindset in America in particular, that to be a hero, you need to do something alone. And, you know, so you know the stories about pioneering, the railroad, if you did the railroad as a consortium with crowdfunding and had the help of a hundred people, it’s not considered the same as if single handedly you built the thing.
And I think it’s a shame. I think it’s a little sad and hopefully that’s an old paradigm. To think I know enough. I’m so smart that I can do everything best if I do it alone. Hopefully that’s all. The best CEOs, now the best leaders are not the ones that come up with the solutions. The best leaders are the ones that have the best questions.
And I find other people it’s like be a king maker, not a king. And so, I think that’s one reason that coaching has exploded with people like Bill Gates and Andre Agassi and Tiger Woods. All saying, Hey, no matter how great you are, you can be better if you have a coach. Anyway, I’m biased.
I’m a coach. I think five months ago I had five separate coaches for separate areas of my life. So I’m a. I’m a big fan and evangelist for what coaching can do.
