There’s daring. And then there’s REAL daring.
Listen in as I explain how to be 30% more daring without being crazy (unreasonable):
- How to get real and harness your courage.
- The difference between reasonable risk and stupid risk.
- How to be more daring by being mindful of your fears and barriers.
- Why it’s important to lean into a risk for success.
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Michael J Maher: [00:00:00] If we practice this thing that you call real daring more often, what would be available in our life and work if we practice that? Daring, not just daring and not just real. It’s real daring. So explain that term.
David Wood: [00:00:16] The word real keeps coming up for me in my life, because I think that I wasn’t taught to be real.
I learned and all kids, we tend to learn to hide things that are going to get us in trouble and hide things that we’re going to get our parents upset. And there’s a huge power dynamic between a parent and a child. So being real was something I had to learn from other environments like teachers. I go to a personal development course and I’d watch someone get up on stage and say, and this was the leader he got up and said, I’m terrified of people.
And I was sitting there. You can say that I would never tell people I was terrified. Cause I think that’s something I should hide. And I had to relearn that. So the more I saw people being real, the more inspired I was, the more I wanted to be around them. And I wanted to learn. Be that myself. So real quick, I wrote an app called Get Real, which provides questions that you can use.
And, you know, your listeners might love it with their clients and their prospects. Like, Hey, I got this game, you know, here’s the question of the day. You ask it. And it goes deep, really fast. And then daring came up because I. Well as a kid, I don’t think I was that daring. I didn’t stand up to the bullies.
And so I just let them push me around. And I didn’t ask out the girls that I wanted to spend time with. I was terrified of that, and I regret that so much to this day that when I spot something that’s edgy, I spot something that’s a bit scary. I’m more likely to lean into it because I don’t want that to have power over me.
So daring came up and courage as part of my brand. And I just put the two words together, Real Daring. Be real. And being real requires daring totally. Every day it requires daring. I was once, I’m buying, I wanted to buy a gift for a woman and I had a girlfriend and I just wanted to buy a gift for someone.
And I was terrified because I knew my girlfriend would be pissed and the attendant, the shopkeeper was pretty switched on and she saw what I was grappling with. And I was like, my truth is to buy this, you know, I’m not trying to have sex with a woman. I just want to give her a gift, but my girlfriend’s gotta be pissed.
And this shopkeeper said it takes guts to live your life. Oh boy. Did that stay with me. It just takes guts to live your life.
Michael J Maher: [00:02:56] Yeah. Yeah. Wow. That’s so I mean, that kind of leads into this 30% number, right? So you’ve come up with that. Basically. We should be 30% more daring. So 30%. Where’s that number come from, right.
It would have been really easy for you to just say the number 20%, because everything’s 80 20 principle right now, but it’s like, it’s what is 30% more daring look like?
David Wood: [00:03:23] Yeah, I should have said 32.7%. It would really make it intriguing. I pulled that number out of a hat because I want to encourage people in the direction generally of taking more risks.
And I say generally, because sometimes people take risks. That’s just stupid risk. Yeah. You drive a car and don’t wear a seatbelt. I think you’re an idiot. There is no profit in doing that. You ride a motorbike and you don’t wear a helmet. You, if you may not know it, you have a death wish or you’re an idiot.
It’s one of those two things. And then look, you’re talking to the guy, who’ll jump off a mountain and go up under a cloud. But I wear the damn helmet. I go and get the training and people who smoke cigarettes. I can understand it. I eat some stuff. That’s crap for me. And I, you know, I get away with it. But we take risks that don’t pay off.
I’m not saying do that. I’m saying lean more in the direction of the risks that are likely to pay off. They could really have such great upside, even if the only upside is personal growth and you learn something. Oh, you can just say I was myself and doing that. And that’s the reason I did it. And I did, but then I didn’t want people to go crazy and go a hundred percent.
Yeah. I have an exercise. That’s okay. Simple and practical and I’ll offer it to listeners. Now you got a piece of paper, right? At the top of the piece of the page. What would I do if I was fearless? I’m not asking you to be fearless. It’s you know, I think they say fools and priests are fearless. Some author said that.
Michael J Maher: [00:04:57] Heroes, and all stars and all pros are not fearless. They just fear less right.
David Wood: [00:05:07] Or fear doesn’t stop them. That’s true. So some people think I need to be confident before I do it. No you don’t actually have to do that. So I’m not asking you to be fearless, but ask the question. If I was fearless, what would I do?
What would I say to my people? What would I ask for? What would I say no to? What would I set a boundary around? What would I say to my kids? If I was fearless, what would I say to someone I’m attracted to? What would I say to the prospects that I want to work with me? What would I say? Filling the page with what you would do. But I’m not saying that you have to be a hundred percent
more courageous, more daring. Don’t go and do everything overnight. They might be a whole bunch of stuff you never do. That’s okay. I’m saying start to build your awareness of where your edges are and what would be edgy for you. And then maybe circle two or three things on that page. Maybe circle the easy ones,
if you want. If you’re like me, you might do the hottest one first, because then everything else is downhill, but do two or three. And then if you like the results. If you like how that felt after doing it, you might pick two or three more things. So the 30% is just a number in between zero and a hundred to get people going in that direction, because I think we tend to play it too safe in the areas that matter.
And we’re too dangerous in the areas that have no upside to it.
