To get what we want, sometimes all it takes is one ask. But for many of us, that first or second request never comes out.
Listen in as I give you tips on the best way to get a response from ANYONE:
- Why you shouldn’t stop at the first ask.
- How NOT to be annoying.
- THE method that will position you in a positive light.
- Why naming that mouse is key to your success.
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If you don’t ask, how will you get what you want?
– David Wood
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– TRANSCRIPT –
David Wood: [00:00:00] Many of us will stop before the first ask. And I want to encourage us all to at least ask your partner for what you want in the bedroom. Giving them the freedom to say, no, hey, would you be interested in this. I want to try this out. What would you like? Ask for someone to work with you or to buy your product.
They can say no. And the more we practice it, the more callouses we can build around it. So don’t stop before the first ask and too many of us will stop after one asking. And I think that’s a shame. If you care about it, look, if you don’t really care, that’s fine. I put it out to the universe. The universe will decide.
I respect that. But if it matters to you, you’ve got to keep going because most other people in the world will get stopped before the first ask or the second or the third. They’re not going to be persistent. They’re not going to ask five or six times. Keep on going until someone lets you know, hey, this doesn’t, this isn’t, I’m a no to this. Okay.
Even once you get a no you might decide that charmingly and persistently, you might respectfully, if you were open to another, I want to pitch you one more time. I didn’t get my best foot forward. May I send you one more 30 second pitch, right? You can ask. Yeah. We’re not going to be assholes about it.
We’re not going to be annoying about it. We might even say, I realized I’ve asked you three times already and I don’t want to be annoying, but also if this just got lost by the wayside it would be such a shame if we dropped it right here. Let’s just be honest.
Aaron J Armstrong: [00:01:37] I wanna dig in on this just one for one more second, because this is good in the language you’re using too.
Like you’re announcing, I don’t wish to be annoying. So you’ve kind of realized with some level of EQ this person’s receiving. Okay. He knows he could be coming across annoying. I’m trying to be charmingly persistent. And I think that is such a great way to word it because you’re not like, yeah, I’m just trying to be persistent here.
And then someone would be, oh yeah, he’s just being persistent. That’s cool. It’s so much different the way you worded that. Are there other ways you can kind of like structure it? Cause I get LinkedIn pitches all the time. I feel like that’s all that they do on LinkedIn is just persistently pitch me and I just ignore all of them.
But if I saw something like that’s like, wow, this person recognized they could be coming across annoying. So I’m like, ah, yeah, you are cool. And he’s person, I see what you’re doing, you know?
David Wood: [00:02:26] Yeah. So I think you just, in a nutshell, encapsulated the power of the book that we’re writing right now. So the book’s called Name That Mouse.
And the idea is that we all know about the elephant in the room. You see it. I see it. No one’s saying anything. But many creatures in the room are much more subtle. They might be little mice scurrying around. So if I’m reaching out to you on LinkedIn and I want you to buy my product and I don’t say anything, that’s a mouse in the room.
In fact, it’s a little bit more like an elephant, because we both know that I want you to buy my product. And if I don’t say anything, I can come across as disingenuous by naming the mouse. Hey, I’m hoping you might eventually become a client. For now, this is my goal. This is my aim. I’d like to help you in some way so that you can see the value of what I have.
That’s an example. I just made this up off the top of my head because it’s the truth. And I’m naming my own mice. Now, when you hear that, you can relate to me like, oh, this guy’s actually being honest with me. He wants me to buy from him at some point, but for now, he’d like to help me so that I can see the value of this.
And I might become a client or maybe I’ll refer someone to him. All right. Show me what you got. So the principle is the truth.
