You’re living in a matrix and it’s time to escape…
Tune in as I cover:
- How to make your own reality.
- How to let go of what’s holding you back.
- The difference between a coach and a friend to help pull you through.
Isn’t it time you escaped from living in the matrix?
– David Wood
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– TRANSCRIPT –
[00:00:00] David Wood: Yeah, I don’t think I’ve said this before, but as you’re saying that what I realized is that suffering is completely optional pain may be not, but the suffering is completely optional and, and I still suffer. I still suffer often. It seems to be getting shorter and shorter, the periods where I suffer.
[00:00:21] David Wood: And I think the only thing that can have us suffer is, is what we’re building. And most people, I grew up thinking that everything was external and my life would be good if I had great circumstances. If I had money and a wife and, you know, good health and whatever, then I’d be really happy. Well, it doesn’t seem to work that way.
[00:00:42] David Wood: You have people with nothing who are happy and people with everything who kill themselves. So I finally realized it’s really. About what we’re believing. And what I got while you were speaking was it’s like, we are in the matrix. From the movie, the matrix it’s like, we are in a matrix of our own creation, which is our thoughts and what we’re thinking.
[00:01:09] David Wood: Tiny example. Last night, I got a bit annoyed with my men’s group because there’s only four of us in the group. And one by one, all three of them bailed on, on the meeting that we had and I was there ready, shown up. And then the last guy just said, oh, well, let’s cancel. And so I got annoyed. And then as I investigated, I was like, what am I doing?
[00:01:31] David Wood: Like, what am I holding onto? What do I care now that we’re not doing that I can go and play chess with my buddy? And I don’t care if they rescheduled. I don’t, I don’t care. But there was part of my ego that was just trying to hold on and like, I need to fight for something I need to be respected. I need all this.
[00:01:49] David Wood: So we are in our own matrix and that’s great while ever things are. Right. Well ever we’re enjoying it. It’s fine. But if we’re ever suffering, we can do some hacking of the matrix. We can do some hacking of our own thinking and it’s hard to do yourself. And so that’s one of the things I get to do for my clients because I’m outside of them.
[00:02:15] David Wood: I, they can’t read the label from inside the jar, but I’m outside. I can see how they got there to the suffering. And so I can often help them find a way out.
[00:02:26] Tony Maree Torrey: Yeah, I so agree. And one of the metaphors that I share with my clients is because like, what’s the difference between talking to a coach and say, talking to a friend.
[00:02:37] Tony Maree Torrey: Right. So what I say is that typically when you’re talking to a friend, you’re expecting the friends to jump in the pool with you, you know, like you’re, they’re like gasping for air trying to stay afloat. And when your friend about it, they’re going to jump in there with you. What a coach does. Days outside the pool on the sidelines and gets you to the edge or the ladder or whatever.
[00:03:03] Tony Maree Torrey: So you can climb out of the pool.
[00:03:05] David Wood: Yeah. That’s, that’s very true. Hey, either I, the get you to the edge or helps you find a way to get yourself out of that, out of that pool. That’s absolutely true. I mean, Yeah. And not to say that it’s, it’s dispassionate like I think you’re absolutely right. There’s empathy and like all that, that must be really rough.
[00:03:28] David Wood: And now, you know, once you, once we’ve really acknowledged that and we’ve acknowledged the feelings and name them, then are you ready to start moving towards the edge of the pool? Let’s do it, but you’re right. I, I’m not going to buy into. Generally, my job is not to buy into the sad story and be like, oh, I can’t believe she did that to you.
[00:03:52] David Wood: And whatever. I mean, maybe I do have some outrage. Maybe that’ll come too, but I’m not gonna wallow in that. I’m always looking for what is going to be best for you. And sometimes what’s best is to take responsibility for something and your friends may not do it. Your friends may not say to you.
[00:04:11] David Wood: Well, what can you be responsible for here? Is there anything you did that might’ve led to this that you can, because then you’ve got some more power. So yeah, I’m glad you brought that up. That is a difference with, with coaching. Good analogy.
