When Daniel asked David the question “How have you built relationships?”, David admitted he stalks people – in a good way!
Listen in as David reveals the keys to building valuable relationships:
- Why persistence is your best friend.
- The very cool ‘snowball’ effect of amazing networks.
- Why you need to get comfortable with people saying no.
Each valuable relationship leads to another relationship, which leads to an amazing network of people.
– David Wood
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– TRANSCRIPT –
David Wood: [00:00:00] Love this. So the question is how have I built the relationships? Firstly, I want to say, I feel very blessed. Like one of the best assets that I have in my business in life are the people. I have friends that I’m just privileged to know. And I’m amazed that they call me their friends. So socially, I keep gravitating towards the people that have the same values as me.
I actually stalk people and I try and build a relationship if they really matter to me. One guy, can I, I think I can say this, one guy is the son of Gabrielle Roth and who, who created this huge dance movement called sweetener prayers and five rhythms. And I loved this guy. I’m like, this guy’s amazing, but he wasn’t that good at returning calls and whatever, but I tell you what, three years, I really tried to maintain a relationship.
Now that kind of failed. I could reach out to him now, whatever, eventually I gave up. But that kind of energy often pays off. Another guy, I went to a cuddle party. And the founder, one of the co-founders of the cuddle party was there and I’m like, this guy seems amazing. I want to know him. So I tried, I reached out a number of times and then, and I offered, I said, I’d like to help.
I think I can help what you’re doing here. Ended up in his apartment talking, he’s now one of my dearest friends. I love him so dearly, but I really went for that and try it. Now in the business setting, I do a similar thing. If I’m really drawn to someone, I just want to make it work. Now I’m not always successful, but I think Jack Canfield’s a good example.
The author of Chicken Soup, co-author of the Chicken Soup Series. When I saw him speak, I was blown away and I’m like, I want a piece of Jack and I didn’t know how to do it. So I just saw him walking down the corridor after he’d spoken and I walked up and I just spoke to him. I said, I’m impressed by your success.
And your books make me cry. And we got chatting a little bit. And then we ended up deciding to do some cross promotion ’cause I had an email list at the time and I said, I got 40,000 coaches. If I can help you, I’m happy to. He said, Oh, we should do some stuff. Now that didn’t really get me a relationship, but we had a business relationship.
And then, years I think it was years later, I was in a hotel and I saw John Ray sitting by the fireplace and he’s the author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. And I’m thinking. Holy shit. I’ve been trying to get an endorsement, a book endorsement from him, never heard any responses, he’s sitting right there.
And I was so nervous and I didn’t know what to say. I went back to my room feeling like a loser. And my girlfriend, the third time I said, I just walked away from John Gray, she said, put your clothes on, get back out there and go and talk to him. And so I did. And it was awkward, man. I had to go and stand there while he’s talking to friends and wait for him to stop speaking and looked up at me.
But that led to us having lunch that led to me being nominated to the transformational leadership council, which Jack Canfield founded, which led to me eventually developing relationship with Jack, which meant so much to me. So there’s an example. I tend to reach out when it matters. Now, a lot of people say no, and I might keep on trying.
And countless people have just not even responded, but then you get those few that do respond. And then that leads to another relationship, leads to another one. Now, I just know amazing people and I’m so grateful for it. And I want every listener to start thinking like that. If you’re interested in having an amazing network of people, then when you’re drawn towards someone, say with Daniel, you might listen to this show and you might be like, this
Daniel is a pretty cool dude. You probably think that since you listened to the show, you could reach out to him, see what you could offer him. You might you listen to the show enough, you probably know what he’s into, but Hey, I’d like to offer help with this. Or could we talk about whatever, try and find something that will be in it for the other person.
Some people say no, but then other people who you expected would say no, might actually say yes and just blow your mind.
