“When you try and preserve a relationship by avoiding a tough conversation, you can destroy the relationship”
– Jason Gore
Listen in to hear:
- Why Jason focuses on startups
- David’s unusual connection with Jason
- Why it’s critical to override our natural instinct – both in life generally and specifically when it comes to tough conversations.
- Pause, make a new choice.
- Why Jason believes humanity is in trouble.
- How Jason makes life and death decisions, and how it helps him not freeze in essential moments.
- No response IS a response.
- How we humans are conflict averse and how it causes us problems.
- Jason’s vision for the world.
- Ninja tip: Speak to someone ELSE about your difficult conversation first, to release charge. Then the actual conversation will be much smoother. Plus, they can listen for clarity and power.
- How Jason’s family stopped talking to each other because they didn’t know how to solve problems. And how this translates to the corporate world.
- Jason and David use a real conflict they’ve had in their relationship as an example.
- When you have an issue, should you bring it up or not?
- An example of how avoiding tough conversations can hurt a team.
- Practice at work and with friends – work up to family, as it’s often the hardest.
“You really get to know who people are by how they navigate conflict with you”
-Jason Gore
QUOTES:
“When you try and preserve a relationship by avoiding a tough conversation, you can destroy the relationship” – Jason Gore
“Speak to someone ELSE about your difficult conversation first, to release charge. Then the actual conversation will be much smoother” – Jason Gore
“When you get employees talking to each other, everything gets better” – Jason Gore
“When you avoid a tough conversation, you also avoid the likelihood of things getting better” – Jason Gore
“You really get to know who people are by how they navigate conflict with you” – Jason Gore
“Be soft on the person, hard on the problem” – Jason Gore
“Tough Conversations – Missing Ingredient #1: Willingness to Own your world or perceptions” – Jason Gore
“Tough Conversations – Missing Ingredient #2: Willingness to understand the other person’s world” – Jason Gore
“Don’t have tough conversations when you’re upset” – Jason Gore
“We’re talking about the easy stuff; we’re not talking about the harder stuff” – David Wood
I’d love to hear your greatest take-away from this interview if you’ll share it with me in the comment section below. I look forward to every one of them!